Life is a Mess

Posted on December 24, 2011. Filed under: Inspiration, Parent of an Addict | Tags: , |

A Merry Christmas Eve to all my readers. This is a difficult time of year. For inspiration and hopefully, comfort, I’ve included  today’s post from one of my favorite authors/bloggers, Dr. Brene Brown.  Her blog, Ordinary Courage, explores vulnerability, authenticity, and the journey towards leading, what she calls, a wholehearted life.  We need to practice self care – you know, the concept of placing the oxygen mask on yourself first in an emergency so you can then help others?  I encourage you to visit Dr. Brown’s blog.  It reminds me to keep trying to live my own best life. Take care of yourselves.

Finding Magic in the Mess:

The holidays are a perfectionism minefield. My expectations always need radical reality-checking this time of year and that normally comes in the form of a total meltdown. The good news is that I often have a lot more fun on the backside of my breakdown when I start letting go and leaning into the crazy.

As I think about my own life and reflect upon what many of the people around me are going through this Christmas, it’s clear that struggle doesn’t take off for the holidays. The gremlins don’t go on vacation. Checks bounce, chemotherapy appointments are scheduled, relationships keep unravelling, being alone feels even lonelier, and the “never enoughs” are in full swing.

As I prepare to spend the next week with my big, wonderful, crazy family, I’ve decided to find my holiday magic in the mess; to practice love and gratitude with the special group of folks who keep showing up and loving me, not despite my vulnerabilities, but because of them.

Wishing you a blessed mess and a Wholehearted 2012! Dr. Brene Brown

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Thank you for reposting this. I really adore it. Thank you!

Peggy.. I too still enjoy reading your posts.. I often find motivation and relevance in the majority of them.. Thanks again…. Michelle

Thanks, Michelle. I have quite a few pending posts that are still percolating and need some work. Thanks for the positive feedback – it’s motivating. My younger son is visiting for a few days – then, I hope to start work writing again. There’s plenty of material/topics to discuss, that’s for sure! Hope you have a good new year.

I am glad you still post from time to time. I like the reference to inspirational writings. thanks…..Anna

Thanks for this Peggy. Brene’s advice is sound, but I find it almost impossible to do – at least the part about enjoying the mess. At best I can tolerate the mess and laugh about it later. But, laugh about it at the time – no way. Still, the reminder is good and I keep trying, as I will this year. Counting my blessings seems to be the best antidote for me.

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